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Adventures in Apartment Hunting With Your Boyfriend

So, apartment hunting isn’t really new to me.

This will be my fifth apartment since graduating from college and my fourth move in 2016 alone. I’ve moved a lot throughout the years. I haven’t managed to renew a lease more than once and I’ve shuffled my cat through three different states since adopting her in 2009.

But I’m sort of hoping that this next time will be the last for a little while. That I can find someplace that I can live in for a few years and actually plant some roots (and maybe an indoor herb garden?).

And this time, with my boyfriend.

Yeah, that’s the new part.

And it’s been interesting, to say the least. I’ve never done the partner-living-thing before, and frankly I’m a little nervous. You don’t really know someone until you’re living with them. You don’t really know their habits and their intricacies until you’re shopping for sheets and making grocery lists and deciding who’s turn it is to clean the toilet.

Josh and I have known each other since we were 19 years old. We met one summer session through a mutual friend while in college together. But we didn’t start dating till much later, not until last year actually. One day date in Tompkins Square Park led to a relationship where we’ve perfected the art of long-distance dating. Now, finally in the same state, we’re scouring Craiglist and Google and a million different apartment hunting websites for the perfect one bedroom.

Sundae Co. | Anniversary Dinner Losers

Blurry as all hell, but still one of my favorite pictures of us. Ever.

Josh and I actually have a lot in common, but we’re also of two completely different design intellects. He’s sturdier and likes solid wood. I’m a bit more eclectic and dying to get my hands on pieces of rubbish that I can refinish and make beautiful. He’s more traditionally inspired and I’m mid-century modern. He’s a bit of a clutter-King (sorry, babe, but it’s true) and I’m organized to a fault. I mean, my folders have folders.

What ranks as a priority to me (hardwood floors vs. carpet, decent character, a dishwasher), might not really matter to Josh as long as the place doesn’t fall apart the moment we sign the lease. He’s more rational whereas I’m asking leasing managers how they feel about temporary wallpaper and switching out cabinet hardware.

We’re stuck between two places currently. One a bit more expensive with more amenities. The other older, with pre-war charm and original hardwood floors. While one has a gym and a restaurant in the building, the other is a bit cheaper. Of course, we’re managing the apartment hunting among full-time jobs and grad school classes, so we’re really hoping to get this thing sorted.

We’re hoping to make two more follow-up appointments this week to finally settle the decision. The sooner we pick a place, the sooner I can start rug shopping.

I know, I know- my priorities are certainly more design focused. But I’ve been working on these Pinterest boards for a few months now and I’m ready to see the inspiration transfer to real life.

Have you recently moved in with a partner? And for those of you who’ve managed for the long haul, how have you compromised? I’m dying to know who ultimately decided the duvet covers, to be honest.


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  • Reply Bridgette October 25, 2016 at 11:13 am

    Ah, I’m so excited for you two! I can’t wait to see where you end up!

    Compromising can be hard, and you know I’m stubborn. In some cases, like curtains, it came down to whose going to use that room more? The winner gets to decide. In other cases, like furniture, it was more about the price range and agreeing on color and fabric since style was limited.

    All in all, we realized it was more about creating a home together rather than finding the perfect pieces we both couldn’t live without. When you look at it long term, you know you’re going to outlast the couch, the pillow cases, and definitely that POS coffee table, so compromise is easier through that lens.

    • Reply Daria Perrone October 25, 2016 at 12:57 pm

      Dying at the last part, especially because we JUST had a convo about coffee tables the other day.

      Solid points, babe. <3

  • Reply Victoria October 26, 2016 at 2:25 pm

    Just leave the tags on like I do, and live with it for a bit. If you hate what you bought or compromised on, you can always return it….

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