It is said that Valentine’s Day is so named after a priest (named Valentine, obviously) who continued to marry couples despite marriage being outlawed during wartime as decreed by Emperor Claudius II. By defying the Emperor’s ruling, he was sentenced to death all in the name of love. This is why today, February has taken on the responsibility as the Month of Love and why on February 14th we give loved ones gifts and chocolate and do that thing we say we’ll only do on their birthday and Valentine’s Day.
Over 150 million cards are sent for Valentine’s Day, making it the second most popular card-sending holiday after Christmas!
I have had two Valentine’s Day’s as one half of a couple, though both were very different. My first Valentine’s Day with a boyfriend was spent with my two best friends. Before the guy I was seeing and I got serious, my friends and I made plans to spend the day together as we were all single and thought it would be fun! I remember when I told my boyfriend he got really upset with me and told me he wished we could have spent the day together. I think he also got me some gifts. I don’t remember. I felt bad, but also had a really good day with my friends.
The second Valentine’s Day with a boyfriend was spent in a very fancy restaurant eating a very delicious meal and exchanging cute gifts. It was really sweet. Then we broke up two weeks later and I felt like shit, but the chocolates he got me helped a little.
Now that I am #foreversingle, I decided to compile a list for other single people (but also for me to look at every year) of productive ways to spend this nauseatingly romantic holiday. The key is to put the importance on self-love and find ways to celebrate the non-romantic relationships in your life. This list is not exclusive to single people, either. I invite all you happily coupled, engaged, married, etc. readers to join in the self-love as well. I think self-love is just as important when you are in a relationship as it is when you are single!
Self-Care Day Self-care has become the most important part of my life over the past few years and has helped me better myself both emotionally and physically. Self-care can take on a lot of different meanings to different people, but personally I have an arsenal of ways to make myself feel better. Going to the gym and working up a sweat makes me feel accomplished, healthy and gets my endorphins flowing – all which makes me feel like I’m doing something good for my body. I love nothing more than spending the day with my best friends sipping champagne, putting on facial masks and watching fun movies. Days spent like that are my favorites! This can also look like going to the movies, reading a book in the park, going to a museum or lying in bed and eating junk food all day. Whatever it takes to make you feel better about yourself! That’s a day well spent.
Get Sexy Go with me on this one… When you don’t have someone to tell you how good you look in those new jeans or to show you some affection (if you catch my drift) it is very important to keep in touch with that side of you. I like to send pictures of new clothes I buy to my best friends for some instant feedback. I have also been known to resort to Snapchatting friends for some gratification when needed. Sometimes it might even take some good old “stand naked in front of the mirror” time to remind yourself of your body and what you like about it. Being single doesn’t mean you have to close yourself off to being sexy (and sexual). So start at home and if you’re up for it, get out there and have some fun!
Ignore It Entirely February 14th is just another day, so spend it as you would any other Tuesday. Go to work. Order takeout on the way home. Watch This is Us like the rest of America. This, of course, requires you to somehow see past the obnoxious amount of pink and red hearts that will no doubt be covering every surface of your office, every store and the Valentine’s Day advertisements on every channel. Ignorance is bliss and it may be tough, but spending the day as normally as possible might be the best bet here. Plus, you can take advantage of the February 15th candy sales!
Maybe Next Year? Ok, so you’re single this year, but 365 days is a long time. Who knows? You could meet someone February 15th! If a relationship is something you want, then maybe next year you’ll be with someone. There’s always Tinder! But give yourself a break and enjoy the alone time. As Mama Ru says “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” (Can I get an amen?) They say love happens when you stop looking for it, but I say go after what you want and make it happen. And if you find yourself single next year, that’s just another opportunity to get back in touch with yourself and reevaluate your goals. No harm in that!
Treat Yourself Spend the day usually spent getting gifts from loved ones and lovers and spend a little on yourself! Go to your favorite store and get those shoes you’ve been eyeing since November! Or go ahead and knock a few things off your Amazon Wish List! Buy yourself the gift you want (and deserve!) and no thank you cards necessary!
Do Something A Little Crazy Use this day as an excuse to check something off the bucket list! On a day where the emphasis is on the romance, flip that on its head and do something dangerous and exciting! Go skydiving! Run a marathon! Take a hip hop dance class! Anything that gets you a little out of your comfort zone and will definitely take your mind off of your relationship status!
I hope your Valentine’s Day is a special one whether you spend it with your significant other or doing something on this list! What are your plans for VDay? Any other ways you spend the holiday?
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